Astelle asks: “I divorced in 2002. (married 18 years) and I’m a single Mom with teenagers. In August 2004. I dated the first guy after my divorce and it lasted until Feb 2005. He’s 50 divorced (was married 25 years) with kids that he has every other weekend. I thought we had a good relationship at first but then I noticed he drinks too much at times may not be over his ex wife and had other issues like scheduling everything. Also after his divorce (2001) he moved about 60 miles from his hometown and job so he drives a lot every day. Our relationship ended because he was supposed to meet my friends but then cancelled with the excuse of being busy. This hurt my feelings and I stopped calling. He didn’t call either and was waiting for me to call. I now understand the lack of contact after reading your website however in 2005 I didn’t. April 05. I emailed him and he responded. July 05 he accepted an invitation to dinner and then until Oct 06. I did all the contacting via email. He didn’t email but he’d say “keep in touch”. Oct 06 I sent him birthday wishes and offered to take him out for it. He seemed excited and we had a great time. He e-mailed the next morning thanking me for the invite saying it was great to see me and he is so comfortable around me and would like to go out again. That didn’t happen until end of November but after that he called regularly emailed me and we went out a few more times. Weird he remembered a lot of things about me what I like to eat and so on. In January 2007 he pulled back calling less. I emailed after 10 days of silence to ask if he was ok and his answer was” I just have a lot going on.” Three weeks passed and I felt fine at that point and gave up on him. I should have left it alone at that point as I wouldn’t be so hung up on him. On Valentine’s day he emailed saying “I miss seeing you but I have hardly any time for myself right now just a lot going on. Let me know how you and the kids are doing.” I responded that it was O. K to take care of what he needs to and that we’d get together when we could. He called the following Friday at 5PM on his way home from work and asked me to dinner. I was so excited thinking that it would work this time around. We went out and he told me that his ex-wife is single again. He seemed irritated that night and acted rude. That weekend he went with a friend to a casino and lost his cell-phone. A truck driver called the last number that called him and that happened to be me. He gave me the phone number and address of a truck stop where he’d left the phone. I emailed him with the details but after calling to ask where it had been found. I didn’t hear from him. On March 1st. I e-mailed again asking are you OK? He was on a business at that time and he e-mailed “I will try to check in with you upon my return”. Poof that was it he just disappeared he went from I miss seeing you to POOF in 2 weeks. I called him in April and got “I have a lot going on and maybe we can catch up next week.” Then nothing. I emailed once in June and September. He replied to the latter telling me how his summer was with his kids and he asked how my summer was. I replied but no response. I’m thinking he “expected” to hear from me on his birthday but I ignored it and have since cut the contact. Why would he respond to my contacts when he has no intention of seeing me or asking me out? Just to be polite or is he waiting for me to leave him alone? Seems like I have to ask him out or I won’t see him. I guess… It is January and he has made NO contact with me. Why not?” NML says: The reason why he hasn’t made any contact with you…is because he doesn’t want to always has ‘too much’ going on and most importantly you have done all the chasing throughout this flimsy relationship. I’m going to put something out there that is pretty damn scary but that you need to face – There is a very strong likelihood that if you had stuck with cutting the contact that you would never have heard from him again or you would only have heard from him when he needed his ego massaged and then he would have disappeared again which would all point in the direction of a man who is totally unworthy of your time. He responds to your contacts partly out of politeness and partly because he doesn’t want to totally shut the door on the nothingness you have just in case he ever feels like calling you up occasionally for dinner or even trying to get some sex. Call it Keeping You On Ice. The Back Up Plan. The Default Girl or most aptly The Fallback Girl. You are the woman that Mr Unavailable relies on to remind himself that he’s still ‘got it’. You’re who he calls up when he needs an ego boost and wants to offload his problems and bla bla bla about himself. You’re who he calls up when he wants somebody who won’t question his absence his total lack of contribution into the ‘relationship’ and who won’t question why he treats her this way and ask if he intends to be different each time. Fallback Girls always think that because he returns some of the contact and because you get together occasionally that there must be something about what you both have that is luring him back that he can’t ‘resist’ and that he feels more than he does he just can’t show it. Just because a guy responds to your contact doesn’t mean that 1) he needs to ask you out. 2) that he wants you/likes you/loves you or 3) that the ‘relationship’ is back on. The key with this guy is to stop expecting anything from him. In a fully fledged committed relationship you can have expectations in fact if you were properly dating him you could have expectations but this guy has very clearly shown you which way the land lies and the best thing that you could do is to drop him like a hot potato step back and address what it is that you want for yourself and from relationships. You need to discard the fact that he has sometimes responded to your contact because it hasn’t amounted to anything. This guy feels as much as he is capable of feeling and it isn’t very much. He is emotionally unavailable and he has purposefully distanced himself from you his kids his ex-wife through his behaviour and positioning himself sixty miles away. Instead of having to admit that he’s not in the right frame of mind emotionally this guy can claim that he’s worn out with travelling every day. The scheduling everything being a big hassle and the drinking all amount to a guy you should run a frickin mile from. He has made his choice and you need to make yours. The only way that you cut the ‘safety net’ and break the cycle is to totally cut contact. Stop chasing this man. He’s not playing hard to get…he’s not trying to be got! Divorce is bloody hard and you spent eighteen years with someone and have teenage children. I think that you are in the grey zone after a divorce where you may not be sure who you are what you want and what you should expect from a man and relationships. Instead you validate yourself on how this man behaves because by being with a Mr Unavailable like him you are choosing a man that reflects what you believe about yourself – I can tell you that you are far more worthy of a man who wants to be around you is able to give of himself can connect emotionally and acts with integrity honesty and care. But unless you address why you want a man who can barely throw you a crumb nevermind any of these things you will continue to chase men like this. Make sure you have confronted the how’s what’s and why’s of your divorce and have healed from the very large break that occurred in your life. Until you do this until you get back in touch with yourself and feel a greater love respect and higher self-esteem men like this clown will always have a place in your life. But most importantly – Cut the contact. Whether we’re 20. 50 or 150 none of us deserve to be The Fallback Girl. My new eBook Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl is now available to buy as an. On the other hand he has built a life as have you. You have your homes - they just don’t have a mate in them. Any changes will be scary and painful - you may want the change change may intimidate him. After four five or six years it seems kind of late to when a stable lifestyle is going to change. It just doesn’t seem likely. Your decision if you should choose to consider it is about what you want. If you want a mated family life you need to end the intimate portions of your relationship and begin looking for a suitably stable honest honorable guy that is interested in sharing bath towels. If you can’t tell this guy goodbye then accept that whatever relationship you have it will be 100% your responsibility and it will be all on his terms. I doubt taking any other approach will do you much good. He doesn’t seem to be interested in hurting you or taking advantage of you. And he doesn’t seem to be anxious to please and to be attentive. Whether he has been being polite these past years whether he has been thinking he has been doing favors for you or for other reasons this isn’t how a guy acts when he is besotted with a girl. Astelle. I am in a similar situation. I thought I ended it by stating my needs but now I realize that the guy is going to continue to come back regardless of my feelings towards the situation. He’s only trying to meet his own short-term needs. But what you have to realize is that he DOESN’T have control of this situation. You do! You get the option to decide if this is working for you. And the fact that you’re on here posting this tells me that it’s not. Once you make that decision you need to take action to fulfill that decision and stick with it - don’t give in to suit his needs because your needs are more important! Be true to yourself and your own needs regardless of what he’s doing. Anonymous there was no “ending”. I just cut the contact back in September and have not heard from him. He is not in control - he may think that still but he will get his answer should he try to make contact and there will be no answer. I have learned so much over the last few months nobody will ever treat me that way again. How is your situation going? Have you cut contact? Astelle. I was in a very similar situation. My boyfriend would work very long hours and use being tired as an excuse for no contact. He also drank heavily and also used hangovers for an excuse for no contact. I saw him about once a week with no contact in between. I wanted more but kept quiet about it because I never got it anyway and when I brought it up there was always a fight. Be thankful you never got too close to this man. I was pretty close to mine and I can tell you the more emotionally invested I became in him the more unhappy I became with the limited attention. We would fight over it and then not speak for a while. Each fight got more intense. We had the last one on Sat morning. It was really a bad fight. I said such awful things to him and him to me. I don’t think we will recover from this one. The thing is he lives near me and we know a lot of the same people. Had I left him a long time ago it never would have come to this. I learned from this that just because you think you love someone doesn’t mean the relationship will work. Both people have to be honest about what they want and they both have to want the same things. I am never going to settle for less than I deserve again. I also realize that the more you settle the more they take advantage. We think we are being accomodating but we are just giving them the message that it is ok to just give us the bare minimum. I hope you find someone that treats you right Astelle. Naturally I felt I deserved to know the details. I wanted a blow by blow account of what he was doing for the entire five hours I was waiting. But he continued to be very vague. The very fact I can’t seem to pull this information out of him makes me realize that “a lot going on” probably means he was on a date with a girl possibly the same girl he didn’t call me for LAST Sunday too! He is playing games here. He knows I need to talk to him about something important tells me he will call me Sunday night knowing I’d be waiting. Then he makes me wait! It is really a set up.

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